Kathleen Buhle speaks out about her time married to Hunter Biden five years after their divorce in a memoir that is likely to fill in the blanks for a lot of those wondering about the first son.
People published excerpts from Buhle’s book where she talked about the end of their 24-year marriage and what it’s like getting ready for their daughter to get married at the White House.
“I have forgiven him, yes,” Kathleen, 53, says in an interview for the new issue of PEOPLE previewing her upcoming memoir If We Break, which goes on sale June 14.
“Anger is such a heavy weight to carry and I was in a lot of pain. There was a lot that happened that was very hard for me. And when I made the decision to divorce, I wanted to let go of all of that.”
The former first-daughter-in-law was married in 1993 and living in Delaware once again by 2001, and said she struggles to forgive herself: “My greatest shame was feeling like my identity was not my own. It was in writing this book that I realized probably the heaviest weight was that I first had to forgive myself for not believing in myself.”
“He started many ventures . . . a real estate investment fund and then a technology company. I didn’t understand any of it, or what pieces of his businesses actually generated income for us,” Buhle said in one exerpt from her book.
“I worried that we lived above our means, but I did nothing to change it. The way that Hunter and I handled money was that whenever I needed any, I called Hunter.
“More than once my debit card was declined at a store. I’d have to call Hunter to transfer money into my account. Hunter and I drove nice cars and had a beautiful home, but we were running fast on that hamster wheel and barely staying on.
Two years after her divorce in 2019, Kathleen went to court to reclaim her identity as Kathleen Buhle.
“Biden was my name. I’d taken it so we could be a family. It was my daughters’ name, after all. In many ways, my last name became a crown and shield to me; it wasn’t easy to consider giving it up. Changing my name had been as frightening as anything I’d ever done before. I was no longer a Biden. I’d handed in my crown and shield because I no longer needed them. Maybe I never had.”